Here were some responses that appeared in the Dear Abby column January 9, 2014:
My kids' grandmas both have strong, loving relationships with their grandkids, so please remind "Family First" she's not missing out on anything. She'll still get to be a doting granny, but for now she should back off and remember the arrival of the child is not about her. -- EXPERIENCED MOM IN OMAHA
DEAR ABBY: The new parents are greatly misinformed about the importance of having grandparents around just before and immediately after the birth of a new baby. It helps to have a family member in the waiting room to update other family and well-wishers so Dad can devote full attention to the new mom and baby.
My mother was a godsend, taking care of everything while we bonded with our child. She did the cooking, the chores, and gave us needed breaks during the day so we were able to tolerate night feedings. When our second child arrived, she helped with our older one.
Childbirth is difficult. I don't think this new mom realizes she won't be able to do it all. -- SHANA IN LOUISIANA
DEAR ABBY: Has "Family First" considered that her daughter-in-law's mother may be coming? Unfair as it may seem, in cultures around the world, the role of the paternal grandmother is far different than that of the maternal grandmother. -- KNOWS FOR SURE IN KENYA
What has been your experience both as a parent and grandparent? What would your reaction be if you were in this Grandmother’s shoes? Respond below!